TimE to be SaD...

a friend of mine said to me once, life's too short to be spent feeling sad. it got me thinking. within the first minute, my first instinct was to agree with it. there are some truth in it. life IS too short and we should make the most out of it and the feeling of sadness doesn't really fit in the picture perfect that most people have of life. i mean, who in their right mind wants to suffer? but then again, doesn't imperfections make life more interesting? i've read of a story of how a young woman wants to commit suicide just because her life is too monotonous. not because she was sad but because there was no excitement of any kind in her life. no happiness nor sadness.
like i said, it got me thinking, is there actually a time to be sad or isn't there a time for it at all? another friend of mine is of the opinion that when you're sad, you're sad. it's neither right nor wrong and there's also no right or wrong reason to be sad. my sister would beg to differ. to her, sure, you're entitled to be sad but not too much. to her, why would you want to make yourself miserable by feeling sad for long. i wonder if this is what my friend meant when he said to me, "why are you still sad today about what happened yesterday. enough is enough". or something like that. i was stumped cuz i've always believed that as long as what happened still bothered me and as long as i still care about what had happened, i would still be sad no matter how long ago it happened. i mean, my mom passed away 8 years ago and i'm still sad though not in an unhealthy way.
yet another friend of mine view the entire thing differently. to her, its not wrong to be sad, but then, get rid of the thing that has made you sad. to her, you don't keep something that makes you miserable cuz its not worth being sad over something not worth being sad over. at least, thats how she feels.
while i was talking with another friend of mine on a matter entirely different from this but somehow managed to find its way towards this issue, she asked me if trying to stay happy or at least trying to appear happy or trying to ignore the fact that you are bothered by something or trying to justify the bad things that happened to you or simply trying not to be sad or trying to ignore the very thing that bothers you altogether is simply being a hypocrite, at least to yourself? i couldn't answer her cuz honestly, i never thought of it that way. but it gives me a new way of looking at it.
after giving it a lot of thought, i still don't have the answer. to me, when something bad happens i might get sad and when i'm sad, i might cry, i would cry though someone said to me once, why would you wanna cry over something? just accept it as a will of God, believe that He has a reason for it and get on with life. of course i believe that but still.. to me, sadness is a feeling. who's to say when and how we should or should not feel what we feel or how we should deal with it.
i honestly don't know. i might be wrong, i might be right. but i believe, there's no right or wrong when it comes to matters of feelings...