Love iS...

Recently I had watched a Japanese movie called ‘it’s a secret because I love you’. I had been dying to watch that movie and when I finally did, I wasn’t disappointed. It’s about a man whose wife and daughter got involved in an accident which caused the death of his wife. As fate would have it, somehow his wife’s spirit was transported into his daughter’s body and thus begins a new and somewhat bizarre chapter in their life that would test their love for each other. You can only imagine how difficult it is for them. There’s nothing they can do, and I mean NOTHING, either in public or in private cause despite the fact that spiritually she is his wife, physically, she is his daughter. This requires sacrifices from both of them. But they stayed together, trying to make the best out of the situation.
It got me thinking… is this what love is? This is an age-old question which comes with all sorts of answer. In other word, it is subjective, as most people would say. Some would say that love means accepting your partner as they are, good or bad. So, if we try to somehow change them, preferably towards something better, does that mean we don’t love them? Some say that love means doing anything and everything for the one we love. To quote a famous line from Titanic, ‘u jump, I jump’, so, if we don’t jump, does that mean we love them any less? If I were to ‘jump’, I wouldn’t want those I care about to jump with me. Does loving someone means we viewing him/her as the most good looking, nicest, most perfect human being and if so, does it mean that we don’t love them if we think that there are others who are more good looking, dress nicer, nicer than them? Or does love means we like them anyway despite the fact that they are not the most good looking or the nicest or what not…
It has also been said that loving someone means sharing everything with them, through thick and thin. Can’t we love them if there are some things that we might decide to keep to ourselves, maybe because it’s too personal (of course cheating doesn’t count, duh…). But then again, there might just be someone out there who would say that just because they like somebody else, doesn’t mean they love their other partner any less. Might be true but to me, if u love somebody, u won’t hurt them by sneaking behind them and lying to them…
I could go on and on with this but in the end it might only result in me being redundant without any conclusion, cuz as I mention above, this is a very subjective question. Different ppl wud have different idea on what love is. And if I were to be asked this question, I wouldn’t know what to answer.
But, I do believe that U can still love somebody even if u can never be with them. Loving somebody does not mean that you have to be together. Loving is about giving… and not expecting anything in return…

p/s: I luv U Ahmad Faisal